Q:
Do you like to tie people up? Are you into BDSM? If so, are you the dom or the sub?
A:
Back in the nineties, I was pretty heavily into the BDSM scene. I went to the underground parties, had the gear and the outfits in my closet, and a drawerful of all kinds of toys that you would find in any dungeon today. I was more of a sub for two reasons: (1) I have a personal issue with violence against women, so even if they want to be beat up, I can’t bring myself to do it, and (2) I preferred being the focus of all the attention! The whole scene is fun and edgy and dangerous, and full of all the elements that I think are great about life and explorative living. However, one night I found myself all bound up in a latex dress, getting beaten and whipped and humiliated. It was hot, don’t get me wrong … but after about two hours of this, I looked around and said my safe word, and there was a long pause. I raised my head, looked at the two young women in the room, and said, “Hey girls, this is hot and all, but is someone here gonna fuck me or what?”
